I am different than you and you are different than me. She is different from her and he is different from him. Our experiences and how we handle them are all unique to us, and is only. But I’ve always been keen to believe that we are a lot more alike than we’d like to believe. I’d like to believe that we all know what’s it’s like to have someone talking about us. I’d like to believe We’ve all experienced someone taking our truths and twisting them into lies. And we’ve all experienced watching those twisted truths turn into rumors. And we’ve experienced those rumors, whether big or small, turn into judgement and false perceptions from others…perceptions that do nothing but taint the good reputation we’ve worked so hard to build. It’s almost like hearing someone sing your favorite song, but they’ve got the lyrics all wrong.
In this day and age, people like to turn perceptions into reality. So when people hear those rumors, unfortunately, they will spread them. People won’t take the time to get to know you and form their own opinions about you. They won’t take the time to realize that those “truths” they heard, are in fact lies. No…instead, they would rather believe the tainted impression that’s been made for you. Because in doing so, it makes them feel better about themselves. Even though it taints your image, even though it knocks you down, even though it throws dirt on your name…it deflects the mirror off of their shortcomings and onto yours. In their mind, it’s one more person that they’re doing better than. Highlighting the lies made about you, takes the attention off of their TRUTHS. And even though they know it’s wrong, it’s just a little easier to keep you down, so that they can slowly climb their way up.
Many times in my life, I’ve heard people get the lyrics to my song wrong. And they replace it with “Linda, I heard this/that about you” or “Did you know this person was saying this about you”. And I don’t know about you, but I take my song lyrics seriously. And I always wanted to correct people when they even got one word of the lyrics wrong. I wanted everyone to know the truth and I didn’t want people to believe the lies or twisted truths they may have heard about me. But over time, I learned that even if I yelled my truths to the mountain top, people were going to believe what they wanted to believe….and there was nothing I could do about it. But I also learned that it didn’t matter what they thought, because I knew the truth. I knew the right lyrics to my song, and that’s all that mattered.
As long as you know the truth about YOUR story, you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone. The people that love and care for you and have taken the time to truly get to know you, can already attest to the amazing person that you are and quite frankly, they are the only people that matter. Anyone that will believe a rumor and form an opinion about you based on hearsay, is not the kind of person you would want around you. They are not strong enough to think for themselves which means they are not strong enough for your friendship. Those lies don’t define who you are and you shouldn’t allow the insecurities and ignorance of others to bring you to that low place that they desire for you to be in. If people choose to spend their time discussing you, let them. Let them attempt to bring you down, so that you can show them how gracefully you’ll stand back up every time. And the more you ignore, the more insignificant their lies will become. So, Let them continue to talk. Let them sing the song, they THINK they know. Because in time, the right lyrics will be so evident, no one will be able to deny them.